Martin Luther King Jr. was an American Baptist minister and activist who became the most visible spokesperson and leader in the civil rights movement. He was a man of ideals and of action. He knew what he believed in, and he fought for it while keeping his standards high.
In our culture today we see clashing ideas about the future of our country. Culturally and politically stark differences are everywhere, on social media, TV, in books, magazines, at the dinner table – everywhere!
The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.
I encourage you to think today about Martin Luther King Jr. and his legacy. Think about what is important to you and what action you can take. I feel it is important now more than at any time in the last 20 years for people to be involved in our society. We can be involved in large or small ways. What is not acceptable, is to withdraw from what is going on. Read, donate, volunteer, and vote. If you can, run for office, get on a board, or support someone who does. Find an organization or cause that is important to you, and add something constructive to that cause. Sign a petition, or put a sign in your yard.
For the last two years I have seen changes in our culture and political structure that confounds me. I have donated, shared information I think is important with people who will (or might) listen, and soon I will be putting at least one sign in my yard in support of a candidate that is running in the November elections. I've never put a candidate’s sign in my yard before. It has never been this important before. In the spirit and legacy of Martin Luther King Jr., I cannot sit back and watch. I know that I need to be involved at least in some small way. I will donate, I will vote, and I will look for other opportunities to be involved and make a difference in a peaceful and respectful way.
Will you join me?
Some people say failing to plan is planning to fail. I'm planning some major success in 2018. I love planning. I adore planning and planners. I love the paper, the ink, all of the potential, and getting things done. I feel excited about the possibilities in a new year, the "blank slate" of it all. Every January we get a fresh start and a whole 12 months to accomplish some of our life's dreams. How fun!!
When it comes to an actual planner, I’m both fickle and loyal. I change planners a lot, but I never give one away. And I usually come back to a good planner. I love paper systems, and I also like the efficiency of online systems. I tend to bounce around a little bit depending on if I’m working on big projects, or lots of little projects. I love this time of year, because this is when I plan my most ambitious, heartfelt, and visionary goals that are focused on me. That includes my business, my family and also my spirituality, fitness, and more.
Right now I’m setting 2018 goals and outlining all the tasks and milestones needed to achieve those goals. The whole idea of wrapping up my future major achievements into a tidy list of “things to do” sets my mind and soul at peace. The dreaming part gives me a chance to be creative. I excitedly get my colored pens and pencils out, pick up a luxurious planner with beautiful, smooth paper and begin writing, planning, and organizing to my heart’s content. Ahhhh….
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I’ve been a planner aficionado for decades I’ve tried them all - Levenger, Franklin, Filofax, etc. And I’ve used all the sizes. I even put tasks in Outlook for awhile. I never throw a planner out. I develop a love for each one, and I rotate through the refillables. Sometimes I look through my old planners that I’ve filled out for a ride down memory lane. During one year, I might change my planner depending on what I’m working on. I might be working on one very large project and need more of a “big picture”. Or I might be working on many small details and need more task orientation. In that case, I’ll change my format.
Right now I am loving the Ink & Volt (I&V) planner and the DragonTree Dream Book (DT). They are both lovely and allow for annual planning that breaks down into chunks. When it comes to then planning daily tasks, I&V transfers to a notepad, while DT has the space for tasks in it. The DT planner incorporates more mystical and “woo-woo” recommendations like yoga and meditation for identifying goals and staying aligned. I like this, but it's not for everyone.
This year I have fitness, business, creativity, and specific writing goals that I am outlining in my planner. I am starting with the DT planner which is very comprehensive. It reaches both ends of the “big picture-to-task detail” spectrum very nicely. I may stick with this planner for awhile, or I may transfer some of my daily to do list to either my Filofax or an online system that I like called Todoist.
My hope for myself and for you that 2018 is a year of growth, learning, love, and success. I’m convinced that to the degree that we take time now to set our intentions, define a clear path, and prioritize actions along that path, one year from now we will be enjoying the fruits of our planning time. For now, it's important to plan like a frickin' boss. So, let's do this! I'm offering a free 30-minute consult specifically on defining your 2018 goals. Email me at email@example.com for more info. I look forward to talking with you!
If you're not ready for a chat, I’d love to just know what you’re planning, and what tools you use to help you. Please comment on this blog! You'll be helping me and others.
Big hugs to you, my friends!
Saying goodbye to 2017 is like saying goodbye to a relationship I’ve outgrown. I learned a lot. There were very good times and some tough times. Now it is time to turn the page.
I believe one purpose in life is to personally grow. With each year, hopefully we reach goals, jump unexpected hurdles, discover new aspects of ourselves, come closer to God, and understand more about what is important to us and why we’re here. That was 2017 for me.
My mother passed away this year. We were not close, but I was involved in her care at the end and helped make decisions for her comfort and to support her wishes. I feel grateful to have specifically (with my sister and brother) helped support her final wishes of spending her last days in her home and helping her pass with dignity and in peace.
This year I traveled, had great times with friends and family, built my business, and pushed myself to be more honest about who I am with myself and with others. I am more honest now about my personal and professional experiences of abuse. I feel grateful to others who really put themselves out there, to the Silence Breakers and the #MeToo movement for being role models for speaking out and being honest.
For my business I expanded my coaching practice to offer more support to my clients in a variety of convenient ways. I also offered online support groups. And (drumroll, please!) I started my book which I plan to release early next year. I am SO excited about that. My book is part business book and part memoir. I’ll be telling more about it in coming months, so please subscribe to my blog.
Personally, I finally had the back surgery I put off for four years, I started my daily meditation practice, and I focused my reading on spirituality and metaphysics. All of my new habits feel congruent with my True Self, and I feel myself opening up more and more.
I started this year marching in the Women’s March in Houston on March 21, and I spoke up often this year about what I saw as a “chipping away” at human rights in our country. Gloria Steinem said, “Women grow radical with age. One day an army of gray-haired women may quietly take over the earth.” I feel myself getting more radical with age. I understand what she’s talking about. We become more brave. We get tired of censoring ourselves, apologizing, and acquiescing. The butterfly must emerge from the cocoon.
I look forward to my new adventures, challenges and growth in 2018. And I look forward to my local and online friends sharing with me how they are learning and growing too. We are all in this life together, after all.
To 2017, thank you… and buh-bye.
Big hugs, everybody!
Snarky fun. Enjoy! Oh, and Buh-Bye...2017.
I had back surgery two weeks ago. It was out-patient surgery…micro discectomy and disc decompression surgery. It’s a relatively minor surgery, and yet, I’ve always thought of that term, “minor surgery,” as an oxymoron. I don’t think there is any such thing. This procedure has risks of nerve damage, paralysis, infection, and more.
Two weeks after surgery I feel great. I put this surgery off for four years. I did physical therapy and got cortisone injections. I took lots of Celebrex for the pain. I limited my activities because of pain. Nothing helped.
I finally had the surgery, and now I feel great. And I feel a huge sense of relief and pride.
This has made me think about why we put things off. Why do I put things off? I see it with my clients. It’s not just me. We put off looking for the job, divorcing the spouse, ending the useless “friendship,” and leaving the town we hate. We procrastinate and hope that things will get better. Or, and this might be even worse, we think we can live with the pain, discomfort, or inconvenience.
I often share the story of the frog being put in a pot of water. The story says that when we slowly warm the water, the frog will swim around. When we gradually heat the water to boiling, the frog will boil and die. Whereas, if I dropped a living frog into a pot of boiling water, the frog would jump out immediately and live. That’s how the story goes, anyway.
I had gotten so accustomed to my back pain that, to some degree, I was willing to live with it. I accommodated it with changes and adjustments I’d made in my life. I felt I was managing it.
I talked to an older woman at my gym one day about 6 months ago. I never talked with her before, and have not seen her since. This was what I call a “God Moment” or a “Divine Intervention”. We talked for about 15 minutes, and got on the topic of my back pain and my two herniated discs. She said, “You’re too young to live with that pain. You need to have that taken care of. You don’t need to have that.” I thought, “She’s right.” I realized I was the frog in the pot of water, and the temperature was rising.
I’ve been in that pot of water before. I was raised by a mean and abusive mother who I escaped. I was in a bad marriage for 10 years until I filed for a divorce. I’ve left bad jobs and bad bosses. Sometimes you know it’s time to “do the damn thing” – whatever that damn thing is. Don’t let the water get too warm. When it’s time to “do the damn thing,” take action and move your life forward. You’ll be glad you did.
Big hugs, Lisa
This season can be rushed, busy, stressful, and it can sometimes feel empty. The holidays and the weather can wreak havoc with balance and wellness habits. Plus, this this is the time with the most environmental darkness and the least amount of light provided by the sun. Handled correctly the short days might be a blessing.
Find the quiet. Enjoy the peace of solitude. Listen to the heartbeat of life slow down in the silence. Let your song tune into the melody of the Universe. Find that quiet place where you can feel the soft rhythm of winter and connect with the light within. Make time for inner reflection while the world feels still and the blanket of darkness covers our world like a soft pillow. Breathe and release what does not serve you anymore so that you can be filled by light from within.
Starting today we will receive more light with each day, and our energy will grow. With the cold and the dark, rest yourself and let go of what does not serve you. Let it dissolve into the darkness, making space for light to grow within. There is nothing for you to do. There is not a checklist. Let go and receive. Heal, breathe, and surrender. That is all.
Before we wrap up 2017, take time to celebrate your accomplishments. Often, we move forward without celebrating what we've done, the risks we've taken, how we've grown, and what we've learned. Watch my YouTube video for more information. Big hugs, everybody!!
When was the last time that you laughed so hard that you almost peed yourself? If it has been a while, you have a problem. We need to get you laughing. Laughing is part of the human experience and feels glorious. Laughing is an intense, joyful reaction to something we find funny. It is a relief and a physical expression of strong emotion. Laughter relieves anxiety and tension. There are a lot of studies about how laughter reduces blood pressure and helps to release endorphins that help diminish pain. I don't know about you, but I'm in!
Laughter is FREE, and available to everybody. Think of a funny memory, read a funny book or watch a funny show or movie. Some therapists and doctors prescribe "laugh therapy" to relieve stress and relax the whole body. Laughter can also increase blood flow and improve blood vessel function. Laughter has benefits in social situations. Laughter can diffuse tense situations and conflicts. It can also create or intensify bonds between people.
Sometimes we think that laughing really hard and having a lot of fun is reserved for children. Everyone needs to laugh. And we need to laugh hard and regularly. I have a lot of respect for how much everyone is dealing with today. My clients have so many responsibilities at work and at home. Friends and family members of mine sometimes get overwhelmed with current life demands as well as everything going on in the news and media today. It can be easy to get overwhelmed. This is all the more reason why we need to take time for the things that are good for us, like exercise, hobbies that we enjoy, healthy food, good relationships, rest, and laughter.
How do you get your “laugh quotient” up? When feeling depressed or tense, take a minute to watch a funny YouTube video or take a walk and reflect on a funny movie or memory. Spend time with funny people. Think about what makes you laugh, and spend more time in that situation or with those cues. Find the humor in situations, and talk about it. And watch shows that make you laugh. Opt for these instead of watching violence or drama. Read articles, blogs, or watch videos of people who make you laugh. Whatever works for you, give your funny bone a regular dose of what it’s looking for. Keep laughing. It's good for your spirit and your body.
I laugh hard every day. You can too. Open yourself up to this amazing gift from the Universe. You will be glad you did. For more information on laughing regularly and loving your life, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
The holidays are upon us. I'm coaching now under the business name of "Loving My Life Coaching, a Liszcz Consulting Company". I'm so excited about this!! Here is some free "homework" to prepare for what can be a stressful time. I hope this helps you love your life! Comment below, please, and let me know what you think. Hugs!
Do you remember the last time you felt invincible? You felt like you could do anything. Maybe it’s been a long time. It might have been a week ago, a year ago, or a decade ago. Maybe you were a kid the last time you felt truly invincible, courageous, and bold. Today is Monday, and maybe you're off to a slow start. I understand. I've been there myself (a lot) but not today.
Our world has a way of chipping away at us. It can take away our confidence and steal our joy. We can be left feeling insecure and mediocre if our work and our relationships do not feed our souls. We can lose ourselves bit by bit, never really noticing that we are disappearing like a big sheet cake being eaten one bite at a time until, before you know it, it's all gone.
This Monday, take charge of your life. Focus on building your sense of confidence and joy. Engage in energy that makes you feel amazing. You deserve it, and this energy will help you accomplish what you want to accomplish, and will help you have a great day. It will also get you off on the right foot for the week.
Be a superhero today and every day. It is entirely up to you how you want to feel and what you want to accomplish. If you are interested in learning more about rocking your inner superhero and feeling amazing on a regular basis, contact me at email@example.com.
3 Steps for Effective Delegation
One of the most important skills a professional can have to become a great leader is the skill of delegating. When you effectively delegate a task, you are freed up to focus on more challenging, strategic work, and your employee has a chance to grow and develop. Employees enjoy the challenge of new types of work and appreciate being developed by their bosses. Effective delegating benefits everyone involved. So, why don’t we do it more?
My coaching clients tell me that a variety of challenges hold them back from delegating more. They tell me:
The problem is that by holding onto the work they’ve always done, they are not growing. Neither are their employees.
We often get into a vicious “non-delegating cycle”. We don’t delegate, so we’re overwhelmed with work. We are then way too busy to delegate so we don’t delegate. Sound familiar?
To delegate successfully, we need to break this cycle. We can do this by following these three steps:
Delegating is an important part of leadership because it has so much to do with growing others and setting an example. By defining expectations and being supportive, we set the tone and define the culture for our organizations.
Want to learn more? Click here for more information on my upcoming virtual training class. It’s going to be FUN, and you’ll learn a lot.
Lisa Liszcz has over 20 years of experience developing leaders and teams in four different global organizations in a variety of industries. In 2014 she became an entrepreneur and is rocking her inner superhero and loving her life like mad.